The Ins and Outs of Anal- Part 3: The Joy of Toys
Wrapping up our journey in the great adventure of ass play, today I hope to enlighten you with the joy of toys. Again, if the idea of anal pleasure is a new concept to you, be sure to take a look at the first two features in this series The Ins and Outs of Anal- Part 1: Pain and Safety and The Ins & Outs of Anal- Part 2: Down & Dirty.
There are a plethora of toys available to enhance pleasure during anal play, some even specifically made for the ass. Plugs, beads, dildos, galore! However, there is a very important aspect to keep in mind when searching for the right toy: flared base.
You need to make sure whatever toy you will be using to insert into your partner/your rear has some form of a flared base to prevent the object from being accidentally sucked up into the great abyss of ass. Now, I realize this may sound a bit dramatic, but it can happen. When aroused, pelvic muscles contract, potentially pulling in any object that is not held in place. Then the sphincter muscles which surround the opening of the anus tighten and close, and bye-bye toy. Save yourself the awkward conversation with the staff at the ER, and make sure all anal toys have a flared base. Aside from that key feature, the rest is up to you!
Toys are a great way to really explore anal arousal. They come in a variety of shapes, sizes, & materials. Some are even specifically designed for men, targeting the prostate. What do you want to feel? Is there a specific material you would like the toy to be made of? What will be the purpose of the toy? What would you like it to look like? These are all great questions to start with to identify which toy is best for you. Since anal tissue is very delicate, you should be mindful of any seams or rough texture the toy may have. A small plastic seam on an anal bead may not feel like much to the touch of a finger, but sliding through the ass may feel more like a shard of glass. Inspecting your toys prior use will help prevent potential issues during play.
Once you’ve found the right toy, you will need to take care of it. ANYTHING that is to be inserted into the ass should be clean, including fingers, a penis, etc. Clean both before and after use. Be sure to read the care instructions that come with the toy. Silicone based lubricants should not be used with silicone toys. Over time, silicone lube may begin to breakdown and destroy a silicone toy. A water based lube is an appropriate alternative. You can even use a condom over your toy if desired.
Remember, good anal play is meant to be fun and enjoyable. Communicate with your partner, explore, and practice safety. Bottoms Up!
Written by: Mary Frank, MA, LPC, CST-Candidate