When is it time for sex therapy? In my practice, I often have potential clients emailing me to determine if they are a candidate for sex therapy. Maybe they are experiencing sexual difficulties but see those as secondary to other relationship problems. Some clients are concerned that, in sex therapy, all we will discuss is…
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Showing Fondness & Admiration on Thanksgiving With Thanksgiving just around the corner, the warm fuzzy feelings of the holidays start to settle in and we start thinking of the people in our lives that we’re most grateful for. Whether it’s a grand gesture of taking care of the kids and doing chores around the house,…
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The Ins and Outs of Anal- Part 1: Pain and Safety More and more clients have approached me with a curiosity towards anal play. A few questions I hear time and time again are, “Is it safe? Will it hurt? Will there be a mess everywhere?” These are all normal and expected questions. Many people of…
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Conscious Couple Time It can be extremely difficult sometimes to find time to connect with your partner during the week when you factor in work, children, pets, working out, and other responsibilities. Most couples try their best to carve out time during the weekend to get in a good quality date night to make up…
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As we enter the holiday season, many of us feel a complex combination of emotions that can overwhelm and affect our relationships. Anxious and depressed feelings can occur as a result of the thoughts about family gatherings, increased workloads, and the hustle to find that perfect gift for someone dear to us. These challenges are…
DetailsInterracial Love: The male perspective! Being in an interracial romantic relationship can be a happy journey. However, it can be a challenge at the same time. Diversity is a word that we heard in our lives on a daily basis. Now, how can we talk about cultural diversity and love? How these two concepts can…
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Workplace Toxicity and its Poisonous Effects on Relationships In the 1980’s there was a popular family sitcom, Married with Children. The primary characters were Al Bundy and Peggy Bundy. Everyday, Al went to work at a shoe store and everyday Al came home complaining about work. He was negative and sarcastic. His negativity was met…
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Domestic Violence and the GLBTQ Community As October comes to an end, many of us have thoughts about costumes and other Halloween activities. October is also National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. As this month comes to a close, it is important to be aware that this form of violence affects the GLBTQ community as it…
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Benefits of Pre-Marital Counseling As a therapist, I am well aware of the stigma that comes along with seeking counseling or therapy. I think one obstacle of pre-marital therapy is the fear that if you have to seek counseling, maybe your relationship is already in trouble. If you’re in love and getting married, shouldn’t it just…
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Intangible Intimacy “Do you have a relationship with God?” He asked.”I do” she responded.”Tell me about this relationship” he told her. “Well, I talk to God. At night when I’m praying… and during the day sometimes” “Have you ever seen Him?” “No…” “Do you get to spend time with Him?” “Well, no but when I’m…
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