The game of love is tough. Two different players, with different strengths, and different skill sets. In a relationship, sometimes it can feel like your teammate is your opponent, which makes teamwork close to impossible. The problem with couples who experience this is often times the “I’m right, you’re wrong” mentality. If you want to…
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Anger Resolution: Stop, Collaborate, and Listen Wait…did I just use Vanilla Ice Lyrics for my article title? Why, yes, I did, and you are welcome. In all seriousness, I chose these three words to help describe my ideas about how anger can be resolved and/or managed. About a year ago, I decided to go and…
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Celebrating Valentine’s Day “right” is a source of stress for many couples. A deluge of advertisements pours down on us, beginning weeks before the holiday – many of them creating guilt-avoidance incentives for men to spend as much money as possible on their female partners. All of this marketing has made us feel that we…
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WEEKEND LOVE WARRIORS: Four Ways to Connect The weekend is almost here, and it is a great time to reconnect and enjoy time with your significant other. Here are four ways to connect this weekend: Make love first thing in the morning! Testosterone levels and relaxation levels are at their highest and, just like with working out,…
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ARE WE GOING TO MAKE IT?: 5 Signs You’ve Got A Shot As a couples therapist one of the most difficult questions I am asked is “are we going to make it?” The beauty of relationships and the reason this field intrigued me are the countless variations of dynamics within interpersonal relationships. Of course, relationship…
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Quite frequently in sessions with couples, we discover that there is a cycle present that is quite damaging to the relationship. This is one of competition or the need to be “right” at all costs. Many times these couples feel that having their point of view accepted as truth is more important than resolving an…
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It’s 2017 and for many that might mean opening up a new chapter in your life by trying to have a baby. Prior to now, you may have been on a birth control that used estrogen and/or progesterone to help you maintain your cycle and prevent pregnancies. Upon going off birth control, your body now…
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Close your eyes for a moment and envision every place you have ever travelled, near and far. As you imagine yourself in these different cities, states, and countries pay attention to the thoughts and feelings that come up for you. Pay attention to who you became throughout your stay there. Perhaps you were more adventurous…
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Currently more women are speaking up about Postpartum Depression (PPD) and, though statistics are low due to many women not seeking treatment, PPD may be more common than we believe. I recently had a client who was pregnant and feared she would have PPD since she has had symptoms of depression during the pregnancy. There…
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Love and the Other, Attachment and the Self: Maintaining a Loving Relationship Immediately after a strenuous day at work, James jumps on a 6 o’clock flight for a meeting in San Francisco. On his way to the airport, he receives a text from his wife, Lauren: “Call me when you get to your hotel”. Stressed…
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