1. Start Early. I get it. You work long, hard hours. You get home and just want to rest – eat dinner, have a drink, watch some tv, and before you know it, you and your partner are both too tired for sex. One remedy for this is to make love in the morning. Right after waking, you’ve got plenty of stored energy and inhibitions are down. An added benefit will be the inevitable mood boost and feelings of connectedness with your partner throughout the day.
2. Make your Bed. Look around your bedroom – do you have piles of dirty laundry scattered around? Is your bed a wrinkled mass of sheets? Is there a pet sleeping on your pillow? If this is where you most often have sex, make sure you’re setting the stage for a positive experience. Put away the laundry (or even better, wash it), declutter your nightstand and dresser, and put a fresh set of sheets on the bed. Make your bedroom a sanctuary where you and your partner will want to relax and be intimate with one another.
3. Talk about it. One of the greatest things you can do for your sex life is to become a student of your partner. Asking each other, “What do you need from me this week to feel loved sexually?” can start a sexual dialogue that might not take place otherwise. Maybe she needs some time cuddling or kissing. He might want her to initiate lovemaking. Together, you can plan how to make love in a way that feels mutually loving, respectful, and satisfying.
Can you think of any other ideas that could improve your sex life? While you’re pondering, go make your bed!