“Reconciling the erotic and the domestic is not a problem to solve, it is a paradox to manage” psychotherapist Esther Perel states in her book, The State of Affairs. I hear the frustration in my client’s voices when they first enter my office, looking at me as they slowly place their relationship in my hands.…
It is not uncommon that when we hear “we need to talk”, we begin to wonder what is wrong in the relationship. I find that most of us make it a priority to discuss what is not going well in the relationship rather than what is going well in the relationship. I would like to encourage couples to make…
Dear Jen, I am getting married in about 7 months and my fiancé has made comments since we started dating about wanting to combine our Facebook and other pages, so that we have one shared account and then to delete our individual accounts. For the longest time, I thought he was joking, but it turns…
5 Things You Need to Know to Overcome an Affair Recovering from an affair can be as overwhelming as the discovery of the affair itself. Most people tell me they feel as their world has been shattered into pieces and are at a loss in regards to what to do next. “What should we do?…
Dear Jen, I was dating this girl for a little bit and I thought things were going well. Then all of a sudden she stopped talking to me. I know she is getting my messages, but she just won’t answer. I don’t know what I did wrong. How can I get her to respond to…
Fighting Fair Do you and your partner fight fair? Would you know what fighting fair looks like if you saw it? As a couple’s therapist, I see clients come in the door and break down their fights to me. One of the first things I notice is how mean couples can be toward each other. I…
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Easy and Budget Friendly Halloween Date Ideas As the month of October comes to a close, some of you may find yourselves more than ready for it to be over. Although many enjoy the festive and frightful spirit of Halloween, it can be a stressful and busy time for some couples. For those with children,…
To Swing or Not to Swing I recently had a couple come into session because several months ago they made the decision to change their sexual lifestyle to become “swingers.” That is they engage in sexual activity with other couples. They reported that they had decided to inform some of their friends about this lifestyle…
10 Tips to Get Your Woman’s Panties to Drop So for starters, none of these are guaranteed; however, they often help get women in the mood and it couldn’t hurt, right?! Take time to woo her. Take her out on a date, write her a poem, bring her flowers, Netflix and chill is not ideal…