The beginning of Covid-19 also meant the beginning of new ways of being for everyone. Social gatherings became smaller or non-existent, homes functioned as offices and schools, and some began feeling anxious about their own safety and the safety of their loved ones. The topic of Covid became increasingly prevalent amongst my couples during our…
Together, We Can Change A message from your therapist friend, “I love you, BUT…” is a conditional statement that does not make your partner feel loved when you say it. You wouldn’t say, “I love you, but I also love my mother.” Or, “I love you, but only when you do XYZ.” I am often…
Since Covid-19, Americans have experienced many changes; one being that most couples are around each other a lot more often. Is this good or bad? Well, it depends on the relationship and the people in it. Some are sharing that the change of pace is nice. Less time in traffic and at work, means less…
As far back as 20,000 BC, people began making soup. With limited resources and ingredients, it was not a hardy bowl of your modern day chicken, noodles, vegetables, and delicious spices. It was not until the 1700s when immigrants began contributing their own ingredients and spices that the originally simple broth we called soup burgeoned…
A wife comes home after a long day and greets her husband. Her husband asks, “how was your day, honey?” and she begins to share the challenges she faced. “I just feel really overwhelmed” she states. “I love what I do but today was too much” she goes on to explain the details of her…
“Reconciling the erotic and the domestic is not a problem to solve, it is a paradox to manage” psychotherapist Esther Perel states in her book, The State of Affairs. I hear the frustration in my client’s voices when they first enter my office, looking at me as they slowly place their relationship in my hands.…
It is not uncommon that when we hear “we need to talk”, we begin to wonder what is wrong in the relationship. I find that most of us make it a priority to discuss what is not going well in the relationship rather than what is going well in the relationship. I would like to encourage couples to make…
Dear Jen, I am getting married in about 7 months and my fiancé has made comments since we started dating about wanting to combine our Facebook and other pages, so that we have one shared account and then to delete our individual accounts. For the longest time, I thought he was joking, but it turns…
Recovering from an affair can feel just as overwhelming as discovering it. Many people tell me it feels like their world has shattered, and they don’t know what to do next. If you’re trying to overcome an affair, you’re not alone. “Should we stay together?”“Can this ever get better?”“What should we say or avoid saying?”These…
Dear Jen, I was dating this girl for a little bit and I thought things were going well. Then all of a sudden she stopped talking to me. I know she is getting my messages, but she just won’t answer. I don’t know what I did wrong. How can I get her to respond to…