Is He Losing Interest Or Am I Just Paranoid? – 6 Relationship Experts Share Their Tips + Insights
Adrienne Brown weighs in on how to tell if your partner is losing interest in you.
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When trying to determine the approach on how to gain more insight into whether or not our partner is interested, or we are being paranoid is to be self-aware, in tune with your feelings, stay present, grounded and communicate.
Also understanding Gottman’s research on the 3 phases of love which includes limerence(falling in love), building trust and building commitment and loyalty and what it entails will give you more insight into what you are actually feeling and experiencing rather than treating the situation as a precursor that something is wrong.
Knowing the phases, you are in as it relates to your relationship and falling in love will give you clarity and perspective.
Because sometimes we project an impression of what our partner is supposed to exhibit in a preconceived time frame that validates in our mind, he is interested or what we envision our potential future might be with the person doesn’t match what’s happening currently can trigger anxiety.
The paranoia or anxiety typically happens during the first phase that is immersed in hormones which set off physical symptoms like excitement, intrusive thinking, fantasy, and sexual excitement which are all a cocktail for falling in love.
However, the paranoia can cloud our ability to enjoy the moment and be present with our partner and these emotions evolve into distorted projections and perceptions that manifest into uncertainty, chaos, confusion, hurt and disappointment.
To really have a clear understanding of your partner wants, needs, interest, and yours this means communication and building on that which takes place in phases 2 and 3 of love.
Taking time to value every moment and effortlessly fall in love with a calm mind, body and spirit is key.
I will provide several tips on how to deal with this type of dilemma.
- Seek guidance from a therapist to explore and process the situation and determine the phase of love you’re in and understand the process of naturally cultivating a meaningful committed relationship.
- Self sooth by implementing breathing and grounding techniques, yoga, meditation, self-care and mindfulness.
- Throughout the relationship always check in and ask your partner how they are feeling about the current relationship and do they have any reservations that need to be addressed.
- Be solution focused, and supportive of your own needs and theirs.
- Help find ways to alleviate stress
- Be in tune with your feelings and communicate or self-reflect on them
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