It is not uncommon that when we hear “we need to talk”, we begin to wonder what is wrong in the relationship. I find that most of us make it a priority to discuss what is not going well in the relationship rather than what is going well in the relationship. I would like to encourage couples to make time weekly to share what they appreciate about their partner and relationship. This can be a great way maintain the quality of their relationship and continue to build connection. Also, this can help couples get into the habit and become more comfortable about sharing how they are feeling in the relationship. This practice of communicating can be helpful long term, as it can help us build skills in communicating with more ease. Let’s face it, speaking about what is going well in the relationship is much easier than sharing things you would like to change. If we don’t get into the practice of sharing what is going well with one another, wouldn’t it be more difficult to share the more challenging things?
Written by Manisha Mayani
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