When your child comes out as genderqueer, it can be both a heart-opening and overwhelming experience. You might feel proud of their courage — and also unsure of what to say, how to support them, or where to turn for guidance. If you’re feeling a mix of emotions, that’s okay. What matters most is your willingness to learn and your commitment to love them unconditionally.
So what does genderqueer mean?
Someone who identifies as genderqueer doesn’t fit neatly into the traditional boxes of “male” or “female.” Their gender identity may be fluid, a blend of both, or neither. This term allows for a broad spectrum of self-expression and personal truth.
How to Show Support When Your Child Comes Out as Genderqueer:
1. Say “Thank You”
Coming out is a vulnerable act. Saying “thank you for trusting me with this” can be incredibly affirming.
2. Listen Without Interrogating
Your child may not have all the answers — and that’s okay. Let them share what they’re ready to, and be mindful of overwhelming them with questions.
3. Educate Yourself
You don’t have to become an expert overnight, but showing initiative by learning about gender identity can go a long way. Start with reputable LGBTQ+ support organizations or gender-affirming therapy resources.
4. Use the Language They Use
Ask your child what pronouns they’d like you to use — and practice them. Mistakes may happen, but accountability and effort matter more than perfection.
5. Reaffirm Your Love
Say it clearly: “I love you, and I’m proud of you.” Your child needs to hear this from you.
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