How often do you and your partner speak about what is going well in your relationship?
I find, more often than not, couples spend more time talking to each other about what is not working, and very little time about what is working. I encourage couples to make time every week to check in, not check out, and express what they appreciate about their partner and relationship. This can be a great way maintain the quality of your relationship, stay accountable to each other, and hear positives about your efforts. Also, this can force you and your partner to slow down from the busy world most of us live in, and focus in on each other. Here are some steps to help you and your partner plan checking into your relationship.
- Pick a day and time that works for both of you.
- Keep it simple! For example, you can speak over coffee on a Sunday morning for 15 minutes.
- Make sure there will be minimal distractions. Turn off all electronic devices.
- Try to be constant and make this a reoccurring relationship ritual.