Skip to content
OPEN 7 DAYS A WEEK 9AM-9PM1-800-913-9613

Specializing in Couples and Sex Therapy

Facebook page opens in new windowTwitter page opens in new windowInstagram page opens in new window

For Clients | For Professionals

Houston Relationship Therapy- Dr. Viviana Coles & Associates
Specializing in Couples and Sex Therapy
Houston Relationship Therapy- Dr. Viviana Coles & AssociatesHouston Relationship Therapy- Dr. Viviana Coles & Associates
  • Our Team
  • Services
  • Rates
  • Request an Appointment
  • FAQs
  • Blog
  • Our Team
  • Services
  • Rates
  • Request an Appointment
  • FAQs
  • Blog

Introduce Kink Into Your Relationship

318b0c19

Are you trying to turn your fantasy into a reality with your partner? If you answered yes, you are not alone. I have had numerous clients struggling to find ways to let their partner into their fantasies, but they find themselves hesitating due to the possibility of being judged or dealing with the discomfort of talking about sex. Because of the sensitivity and vulnerability present in sexual conversations, sexual communication can be difficult for couples. Keep these three points in mind, if you decide to talk to your partner about expanding your sexual relationship.

  1. Start the conversation with yourself, understand your kinks- You want to blindfold your partner during foreplay, use a certain toy, or tie your partner to your bed. It is important to know what your turn-ons are and how to communicate them to your partner, but it is also important to understand why they turn you on. Why, you ask? Well, your partner is a different sexual being than you are. They might not find something sexually desirable like you may, so adding your explanation may help them to become more aware of your sexual wants. Also, talking about sex can be erotic for some couples. This explanation may not only help with understanding, but also create sexual excitement.
  2. Focus on sharing the reasons why this would be special for your relationship- Remember, this may be the first time your partner is introduced to these ideas. It is important to help them understand why this would enhance the intimacy of the relationship. Use phrases such as “I think this would be special for us because…” or “ I feel this will strength our intimacy because…”This phrases may help your partner to understand the special qualities you feel could be added to the sexual part of your relationship.
  3. Start small- Again, because this may be the first time your partner is introduced to kink, start small. Remember to be sensitive to their comfort level during this conversation. Keep in mind that just because you may find something hot and sexy doesn’t mean that your partner will right away, or even at all. Start with the small things and work your way up as you both become more comfortable with the newness of this sexual part of the relationship.

It is okay to feel nervous about how this conversation will play out, but I hope that these points will help you in guiding the conversation with your partner. Please also keep in mind that you and your partner can also work with a trained professional, like myself, to help facilitate these types of conversations. Good luck!

More about Manisha

If you have any further questions about this topic or to schedule a session with one of our clinicians, please CONTACT US. 

Never miss a new blog post! Sign-up for our NEWSLETTER on our homepage.

Post navigation

PreviousPrevious post:Untying the Nots of BDSMNextNext post:Taking the Shame out of Christian Sex

Related posts

Dr. Viviana Coles Transforms Couples Therapy in Houston
March 28, 2025
Love in the Spotlight: The Surprising Success of Reality TV Marriages | The Messenger
June 25, 2023
Relationship Expert Dr. Viviana Coles tells you how to get private time with kids in the house | Fox 26
June 14, 2023
Relationship Wellness Tips- Houston Life
January 12, 2023
Hurricane Harvey-Braving the Storm
September 6, 2017
holiday stress
Holiday Stress
November 15, 2016

Our Services

  • Relationship Counseling
  • Sex Therapy
  • Affair Recovery
  • Premarital Counseling

Sign up

Sign up for our Free Newsletter

Receive monthly tips and relationship advice from the professionals at
Houston Relationship Therapy.

  • By sharing your email address, you opt-in to getting emails from Houston Relationship Therapy- Dr. Viviana & Associates. You will be able to unsubscribe should you want to.
  • This field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged.

Testimonials
“I have more self worth and self confidence than ever before and I feel like I am on the right path to being the best version of myself with her guidance!”
“Dr. Coles is a true professional. She will provide you the tools to get on the right track to begin the healing process in your marriage.”
  “Thank you for helping us to realize where we can improve.”
  “Houston Relationship Therapy has provided me with an amazing resource to help me get through one of the hardest things I feel I will experience.”
  “Great thing to do BEFORE you get engaged!”
  “I was going through a really tough time when my relationship ended. I am very happy to have had the support from Houston Relationship Therapy in order to process this grief and work through my emotions during this breakup.”
  “I would definitely recommend Houston Relationship Therapy to others. I’m more than happy with the flexible hours.”
“I would highly recommend Houston Relationship Therapy to my family and friends. Therapy has been highly beneficial and has helped me get my life back on track, when it felt like my world was falling apart and was so chaotic!”
  “Houston Relationship Therapy has been helpful in streamlining the process of managing a marriage, and instrumental in dealing with our relationships with our In-Laws.”
  “Sessions at Houston Relationship Therapy have been helpful in improving communication and problem-solving for our relationship. It is the key to building a strong and healthy relationship.”
Houston Relationship Therapy- Dr. Viviana Coles & Associates
©2025 Houston Relationship Therapy | OPEN 7 DAYS A WEEK | 1-800-913-9613

Site by Houston Web Design Agency