Planning a wedding is a unique time in a relationship. It is likely the first time a couple plans a large event together which involves not only them, but their families as well. At the same time, they have to continue their normal day to day life. Yes…it is stressful and during this process, couples often argue more than they typically do.
During this time, I encourage couples to spend time talking about their marriage, not only their wedding.How do they envision their lives together as a married couple? What are they most looking forward to from married life? What are the reasons they are marrying each other? What do they love about one another?
I also remind couples to continue having fun. Wedding planning can take a lot of time and cut into the quality time couples had before. Carving out time to hang out is so important. Even an hour or two away from wedding planning can make a difference. It can help refresh your relationship and help you both remember the reasons why you are getting married.
Lastly, couples should try to focus on the small things and should not add more to their plate during this time. They should not feel pressured to show their love for one another in extravagant ways; a simple, sweet text message/note to your partner or bringing your partner their favorite chocolate from the grocery store can go a long way.
If you are planning a wedding right now, try to focus on these three things. Find some time to talk about the marriage instead of the wedding, be creative in looking for some quality time away from wedding planning, and remember to focus on the small things.