Many of us are now looking at what we have spent at the end of 2014 and perhaps making resolutions concerning our spending habits. Some may be experiencing some “sticker shock” at the bill now come due following holiday spending. Arguments between couples are frequently centered around the earning, saving and spending of money. These conflicts can become hot topics for couples and create negative feelings like resentment towards each other.
Does your relationship have a financial plan? The business side of an intimate partnership needs to be addressed but it can be difficult to do. Couples sometimes find it easier to talk about almost any other challenge in their relationship, even possible infidelity. As a new couple, the topic of how they spend, save and earn money can be discussed in an open manner as they learn about each other and find out where strengths and resources of each person can be utilized to enrich the relationship. For example, a complimentary financial relationship may exist where one party discovers that the other is very good at saving or investing money while the first person is good at knowing when it is ok to splurge. These two can learn from each other and create a financial plan that includes both; each staying within boundaries agreed upon together.
I find that many couples have a lot to say concerning their finances when prompted but many are uncomfortable with the topic. However, as the topic becomes easier to talk about, by uncovering what each person brings to the table, solutions that fit the relationship can be beneficial and less conflict over the issue of money can occur.
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