When is it time for sex therapy?
In my practice, I often have potential clients emailing me to determine if they are a candidate for sex therapy. Maybe they are experiencing sexual difficulties but see those as secondary to other relationship problems. Some clients are concerned that, in sex therapy, all we will discuss is intimacy and other factors will be overlooked. Many times, couples start therapy with different expectations – maybe one partner wants to focus on the sexual and the other wants to focus on emotional connection. All of these concerns are valid and quite common in sex therapy.
What I’ve learned in my years of practice is this: because each of us is a sexual being, our holistic healing will include building a healthy view and practice of our own sexuality. Is sex therapy required to get to that place of healing? Sometimes. Here are some instances where I’d recommend spending some time in sex therapy:
– You or your partner is experiencing sexual pain during intercourse
– You have a diminished or extinguished sex drive
– It seems to take a very long or very short time to orgasm, or orgasm doesn’t happen
– You have trouble maintaining an erection
– You have seen your sexual relationship decline due to other circumstances
– You have trouble talking about sex with your partner
– You are experiencing infertility
– You are a survivor of sexual trauma
– You are not able to have intercourse with your partner
– Sex typically leads to conflict with your partner
– You feel ashamed or disturbed about your sexual thoughts and/or behavior
– You just want to make your sexual relationship better
If any of these resonate with you, please call our office and schedule with one of our trained sex therapists. We’re ready to guide you through the healing process.
Author: Melanie Sutton