One day at a time
By the time couples come to therapy, they’re often “emotional and physically disconnected,” said Viviana Coles, a licensed marriage and family therapist and a certified sex therapist.
How do couples keep from getting to that place?
“Each day, I would recommend that couples alternate between expressing their love physically or emotionally,” Coles said.
Just one effort each day can make your partner feel loved, she said. Nothing big is required: Hold hands, do something thoughtful or express admiration with a genuine compliment.
Couples disconnect when they get out of that habit, Coles said. “To not speak to one another or hear a loving word or get a loving touch for days?” she said. “That feels terrible.”
But if you think, “Hey, today I’m going to do something sweet, and tomorrow I’m going to initiate intimacy,” that’s doable, she said.”
To read more tips from other couples experts head over to the Houston Chronicle to read the complete article by Alyson Ward.