In life, we all have our own preferences as to what feels safe and comfortable. We set boundaries to protect ourselves and to mitigate feelings of discomfort or uncertainty. With Covid-19, one challenge some couples are facing is coming to terms with different new normals. One person is ready to resume life as it was…
Dear Jen, I have heard from several women that anal sex is amazing, but every time I try it with my boyfriend, it hurts so much that he can’t even get it in. I just don’t understand why any woman would like this?1 And why do men want to do it so much? Every guy…
The beginning of Covid-19 also meant the beginning of new ways of being for everyone. Social gatherings became smaller or non-existent, homes functioned as offices and schools, and some began feeling anxious about their own safety and the safety of their loved ones. The topic of Covid became increasingly prevalent amongst my couples during our…
Together, We Can Change A message from your therapist friend, “I love you, BUT…” is a conditional statement that does not make your partner feel loved when you say it. You wouldn’t say, “I love you, but I also love my mother.” Or, “I love you, but only when you do XYZ.” I am often…
Since Covid-19, Americans have experienced many changes; one being that most couples are around each other a lot more often. Is this good or bad? Well, it depends on the relationship and the people in it. Some are sharing that the change of pace is nice. Less time in traffic and at work, means less…
As far back as 20,000 BC, people began making soup. With limited resources and ingredients, it was not a hardy bowl of your modern day chicken, noodles, vegetables, and delicious spices. It was not until the 1700s when immigrants began contributing their own ingredients and spices that the originally simple broth we called soup burgeoned…
Dear Jen, I have been married for about six years, but for the past three years have been considering divorce. We don’t fight that often, but when we do, it can get pretty bad and we lose all connection. We have tried marriage therapy and that helped for a time, but then things just went…
Dear Jen, Why are some guys butt guys and other guys breast men? Sincerely, Just Curious Dear Just Curious, Well, there is a fun theory that postulates all men are technically butt men. What it goes on to state is that before man began to walk more upright, we had sex from behind like other…
A wife comes home after a long day and greets her husband. Her husband asks, “how was your day, honey?” and she begins to share the challenges she faced. “I just feel really overwhelmed” she states. “I love what I do but today was too much” she goes on to explain the details of her…
Dear Jen, I am not sure what I am expecting by writing to you, but maybe just maybe you can help me out here. I have been with my partner for going on 12 years now and I love them very much. I cannot picture my life without them in it; but they have struggled…