Together, We Can Change A message from your therapist friend, “I love you, BUT…” is a conditional statement that does not make your partner feel loved when you say it. You wouldn’t say, “I love you, but I also love my mother.” Or, “I love you, but only when you do XYZ.” I am often…
Since Covid-19, Americans have experienced many changes; one being that most couples are around each other a lot more often. Is this good or bad? Well, it depends on the relationship and the people in it. Some are sharing that the change of pace is nice. Less time in traffic and at work, means less…
As far back as 20,000 BC, people began making soup. With limited resources and ingredients, it was not a hardy bowl of your modern day chicken, noodles, vegetables, and delicious spices. It was not until the 1700s when immigrants began contributing their own ingredients and spices that the originally simple broth we called soup burgeoned…
Dear Jen, I have been married for about six years, but for the past three years have been considering divorce. We don’t fight that often, but when we do, it can get pretty bad and we lose all connection. We have tried marriage therapy and that helped for a time, but then things just went…
Dear Jen, Why are some guys butt guys and other guys breast men? Sincerely, Just Curious Dear Just Curious, Well, there is a fun theory that postulates all men are technically butt men. What it goes on to state is that before man began to walk more upright, we had sex from behind like other…
A wife comes home after a long day and greets her husband. Her husband asks, “how was your day, honey?” and she begins to share the challenges she faced. “I just feel really overwhelmed” she states. “I love what I do but today was too much” she goes on to explain the details of her…
Dear Jen, I am not sure what I am expecting by writing to you, but maybe just maybe you can help me out here. I have been with my partner for going on 12 years now and I love them very much. I cannot picture my life without them in it; but they have struggled…
Dear Jen, I’m not really sure what to do and need your help! My husband recently found out sometimes I fake it. And now he is angry at me and I just don’t know what to do. It’s not like I fake it every time, but ever since having kids it just been difficult for…
Dear Jen, My partner and I have been getting into a lot of fights the last couple of months. It’s so unusual, we usually get along really well. But I am very frustrated and at my wits end! It’s gotten so bad that I am thinking about leaving her, but I want to make sure…
Dear Jen, I have heard of blue balls for guys, but I was wondering if that was just something that they made up or is it real? And also is there is a similar thing for girls? Because sometimes when I am not able to orgasm, it starts to hurt down there. Is that normal?…