Dear Jen, I am not sure what I am expecting by writing to you, but maybe just maybe you can help me out here. I have been with my partner for going on 12 years now and I love them very much. I cannot picture my life without them in it; but they have struggled…
Dear Jen, I’m not really sure what to do and need your help! My husband recently found out sometimes I fake it. And now he is angry at me and I just don’t know what to do. It’s not like I fake it every time, but ever since having kids it just been difficult for…
Dear Jen, My partner and I have been getting into a lot of fights the last couple of months. It’s so unusual, we usually get along really well. But I am very frustrated and at my wits end! It’s gotten so bad that I am thinking about leaving her, but I want to make sure…
Dear Jen, I have heard of blue balls for guys, but I was wondering if that was just something that they made up or is it real? And also is there is a similar thing for girls? Because sometimes when I am not able to orgasm, it starts to hurt down there. Is that normal?…
“Reconciling the erotic and the domestic is not a problem to solve, it is a paradox to manage” psychotherapist Esther Perel states in her book, The State of Affairs. I hear the frustration in my client’s voices when they first enter my office, looking at me as they slowly place their relationship in my hands.…
Dear Jen, I am a married man and my wife recently found out that I enjoy watching gay porn and wearing women’s underwear. She is wondering if I am gay or even bi. I love my wife, I don’t want to be with anyone else, and I don’t really think that I am gay or…
5 Things You Need to Know to Overcome an Affair Recovering from an affair can be as overwhelming as the discovery of the affair itself. Most people tell me they feel as their world has been shattered into pieces and are at a loss in regards to what to do next. “What should we do?…
Choosing the Perfect Sex Toys I have been asked many questions in the therapy room from concerned clients about where to begin when it comes to sex toys. They come from all walks of life and vary in many aspects. However, there is a common theme that I encounter rather often. “I have zero clue…
Getting Your Relationship and Sex Questions Answered: Differing Sexual Styles Dear Jen, My partner really likes a certain sexual position, but I CANNOT stand it. How can we make our sex life work? Does it mean that we both have to do without what we really enjoy in order to compromise? Sincerely, Unsatisfied Dear Unsatisfied,…
Fighting Fair Do you and your partner fight fair? Would you know what fighting fair looks like if you saw it? As a couple’s therapist, I see clients come in the door and break down their fights to me. One of the first things I notice is how mean couples can be toward each other. I…