Bringing the sexy back: Are there steps you and your partner can take to set the stage for more sexy interactions? YES!
I often have couples looking for ways to break the habits that led to a less sexy relationship. Whether the habits are due to convenience or even comfort, they can be changed! Below is a short list of things to consider when increasing the sexiness in your relationship.
- Grooming– What you have been hearing all along may be true for you and your partner. Research shows that a high percentage of us find self-care to be a big factor in determining how attractive we find others. This can range from the way we style our hair, the fragrance we use or don’t use, the way our clothes fit, and just plain and simple showering. How about THAT AREA of your body you say? That all depends on what your partner finds attractive. I highly encourage having “the talk” to truly find out what turns your partner on.
- The “Not so attractive” naked– Yes, believe it or not it does exist! How many of us at one time or another have changed in front of our partners, showered with our partner because of lack of time, or even snuck in to use the bathroom while our partner was brushing their teeth? It’s okay, you can be honest because most people have! Bringing the sexy back into your relationship requires allowing your partner to see the sexy, not ugly, naked. Showering with your partner can be great foreplay, don’t waste it! You can sustain the novelty by allowing for nakedness to happen only during sexual or sensual experiences.
- Weekday relaxation– Am I saying that there is something wrong with relaxing after a long day at work or with the kids? No, definitely not, but I do think there should be more thought put into what you wear when doing it. Think about it this way – majority of us spend most of our day away from our partners. The time we do have with them is when we are home and out of our work clothes. There is nothing wrong with comfortable clothing, but do away with the oversized shirt, torn sweat pants, or even the old, faded shorts.
Have the talk, bare it all, and bring the sexy back into your relationship!